“New parents on the block”
August 31, 2015
The following blog is from Sherri Davenport, who, along with her husband just recently become a foster parent through UMFS. You can learn more about foster parenting and foster parenting-to-adoption on our website here.
Seriously, what do I know? I have no children of my own. The only thing I’ve raised is a dog. How am I supposed to care for a little human? Of course I have the training from the classes with UMFS but sometimes your training know-how takes a while to become a second-nature response. My husband and I had just only days before been approved before we got calls to be resource parents. Still wet behind the ears, we agreed to take in a little 9 year old boy. We had a few weeks to prepare. Honestly, there are no words to express the emotions that my husband and I began to feel. How do you combine anticipation, fear, anxiety, excitement and confusion all in one word? The more I thought about it, I guess that is how I would feel if I were to become a new mom. My excitement kept getting trumped by my fears. I had constant questions whirring through my mind. What if he hates us? What if we totally fail as resource parents? What if we just don’t have what it takes? I finally just had to tell myself to shut up. All I could do was pray and trust God with everything. Thankfully, we had an amazing support system. Our friends and family supplied us with a constant flow of encouragement and reassurance. They told me that we could do it, and I believed them.
Well, the day finally came and I was chomping at the bit. It was D-day. The countdown was over. Everything had to be perfect, I wouldn’t settle for anything less. The “Welcome Home” banner was hung, the cookies were in the oven and I was pacing in the floor. He came in, asked to pee and sat down at the kitchen table with us like he had been here all along. It was not awkward or uncomfortable. It just worked. I can’t really explain it. It’s only been two weeks but it sure has been interesting, to say the least. Now, has everything stayed perfect? Not by a long shot. Do we think we made a mistake by becoming resource parents? Nope, not at all. You see, all of the fear and anxiety, in hindsight, is now trumped by the fact that this little guy just needed a safe place to call home. The welcome banner, cookies and Legos are great and all, but feeling the comfort of a loving home far surpasses anything that can be prepared or bought. My husband and I didn’t have the all of the parental experience to back up our desire to help children in need. All we had was willingness, determination, love and a spare bedroom. If my math is correct, all of that equals just enough to make a difference in a child’s life.
Learn more about becoming a foster parent through UMFS on our website here.